These next
sections will be on what I know about my grandparents – how they met and what I
know about them. It is rather sketchy,
but I will do what I can to bring their lives and stories in.
My mother’s
parents were Joseph Henry and Lucy (Crossland) Higdon. They lived in Louisiana. I know less about my grandfather’s young life
than I know about my grandmother’s. I do know
that Joseph had at least one brother. I
don’t know his parents’ or brother’s names.
I do know that at one point his mother was widowed and married a man
named “Moore”. Grandpa was a big old
Irish man with show-white curly hair and the most twinkling brown eyes I have
ever seen. He was as easy-going as they
come. He walked with a limp from a
black-smithing injury.
Joseph Henry Higdon and Lucy Crossland Higdon, date unknown. The marking on the back of the photograph says, "Wellington, Texas":
My
grandmother was Lucy Crossland Higdon.
Her parents were George Edward Crossland and Susan A. Howard
Crossland. They had 12 or 13 children,
some dying in infancy. Grandma’s mother
and daddy both died when she was a young girl, and the family was broken up,
with the various children being sent to different homes.
George
Edward Crossland and Susan Howard Crossland, year unknown. I don’t know who the child is (perhaps Ben or
Hiram Lemuel Crossland?):
Grandma went
to live with a woman named “McQuire” that ran a millenary shop making hats and
all kinds of accessories.
Grandma and
Grandpa met at a fair. I don’t know if
it was a local, county, or state fair, but I know that when Grandpa saw her, he
went over immediately and told Grandma, “I’m marrying you some day.”
When they
married, I guess Mrs. McQuire made her a good wedding, because they always
talked about how many yards of lace were in her dress and that she carried
orange blossoms as a bouquet.
Their
children were: (1) Georgia Virginia, (2)
“Bill” – it was a nickname; he hated his name so he went by “Bill” and that’s
all I know; (3) “Bud” – also a nickname; same circumstances as Bill; I do know
that one of their real names was Lemuel Hiram; (4) Ione (nicknamed “Nōne” –
pronounced the same as “known”); (5) Opal Ella Nora (my mother); (6) Rufus; (7)
Margaret; and (8) Joseph, Jr.
I don’t know
when they left Louisiana, but I do know my mother was born in Eastland, Texas,
on 15 January 1912. From Eastland they
moved by covered wagon to Wellington, Texas and spent their lives there.
My Grandpa
was a unique man. He was a black-smith
by trade, but also played the violin and gave music lessons. He also made violins and they were beautiful. I remember that as kids we loved going into
his little shed and dabbling in the varnish and messing with his resin. He’d run us out, but with good humor.
My grandma
was a thin woman of medium height. She
was, in all honesty, so sharp-tongued and cold.
She never showed affection to any of Mama’s kids. We would ride the train from Dodson to
Wellington to see them, and we usually came back the same day. But my sister would go with my aunt and spend
the night. Once my sister’s legs were
hurting really badly and she was crying.
Grandma told her, “Young lady, shut up!
You just want to go home.”
Grandma
raised gardens and did canning, and she would butcher and prepare hogs. She was the most wonderful cook I’ve known.
I know that
she must have had a very rough life that contributed to her coldness and
sharpness, but the one thing I have never understood is the unevenness of
it. She was meaner to my little mother
than everyone else combined. I can’t
wrap my mind around why. Mother was the
sweetest, most gentle and meek of the whole bunch, but Grandma always picked
her out to be mean to. Grandpa wasn’t,
and when Mama and Daddy married, Grandpa said to Grandma, “Luce, get Opal’s
quilt out for her.” Grandma had made
quilts for all of the kids as they married, but wasn’t going to give Mama
one. There are other things to say, but
at least you get the idea. By today’s
standard, the things she did would be child abuse.
As I said at
the beginning, Mama was gentle and had been called a saint. Mama loved her kids and grandkids so
much. She was semi-invalid for years,
but she was sit and crochet and sew Barbie clothes for all of the grand-daughters. All the grandkids loved going to “Ma’s” house
(that’s what they called her). They knew
they would have Dr. Pepper to drink and Milky Way candy bars to eat. She was always glad to see them all.
Now this
part is the most painful, but also the most comforting thing I can think
of. My Mama died in my arms, with my
Aunt None there. To this point in my
life, it has been the most hurtful thing I could go through. I only pray to never lose a child or
grandchild. As for the part of her being
a saint, I saw it with my own eyes. As
she died, a bright, beautiful halo light lit up all around her face.
I didn’t say
anything for a few days, and then I finally said to Aunt None, “When Mama died,
did you see anything?”
She went
pale and said, “Well, yes, there was a light around her head.”
Then Aunt None went on to say that Mama was
the most saint-like person she had ever known.
This is the only thing that got me through this time. The years and pain rolled away from her face. Oh!
Mama, I love you so!
Note from Lori: I was lucky enough to receive quite a treasure
trove of Barbie clothes when I was a kid, and I spent hours and hours playing
with my Barbies and my “House of Opal” fashions. Ever the sentimental pack rat, even as a
child, I still have them.
Here is my
old Barbie case, packed with clothes:
Here are
just a few of some of my favorite outfits made by my beloved “Ma”:
I also have
been starting on some geneology, and here is the information that I have so far
– please use this as a starting point only and since I am prone to error at
times, by all means feel free to verify:
Joseph Henry
Higdon, born 28 January 1879 in Louisiana; died 26 May 1956 in Collingsworth
County, Texas; buried in Dodson, Texas.
Lucy Crossland
Higdon, born about 24 March 1877 in Claiborne Parish, Lousiana; died 23
September 1957 In Wellington, Collingsworth, Texas. Buried in Dodson, Texas.
Children:
Georgia
Virginia Higdon, born 12 June 1902 in Arcadia, Bienville, Louisiana; Married 15
December 1929 to Glen Orville Ford in Hollis, Harmon, Oklahoma; died 16 October
1983 in Odessa, Ector, Texas. (Also
married to A.B. Cooper).
Gordia H.
Higdon, born 1904; died 1984.
Lemuel Hiram
Higdon, born 1906; died 1978.
Eula Ione
Higdon, born 14 July 1909 in Pioneer, Eastland, Texas; Married 30 June 1937 to Henry Merle Dunn in Oklahoma
City, Oklahoma; died 24 March 2003 in Midland,
Texas.
Opal Ella
Nora Higdon, born 15 January 1912 in Eastland, Texas; Married 21 November 1931
to Paul Millard Ford; died 15 July 1971, in Dodson, Collingsworth, Texas.
Rufus Lamar
Higdon, born 1915; died 1997.
Joe Higdon,
born 1918; died 1984.
Margaret
Louise Higdon Payne, born 1922; died 1999.